Working from home mum slams neighbor for letting teenagers play dance music from 11am to 11pm
A mum has been slammed for allowing her teenagers to stream dance music from 11 a.m. to 11 p.m. EVERY day. Her weary neighbor, who works from home, said she was “really struggling” to cope.
The question was raised with the teens’ mother reportedly rolling her eyes in response. But, as reported by Echo of Liverpoolthe neighbor said the teenagers were playing “incessant music” and “incessantly shouting” in the garden and the noise was preventing him from finishing his work.
Seeking advice on how to handle the situation, she turned to Mumsnet’s popular Am I Unreasonable (AIBU) thread. She explained: “My neighbor has two teenage children. An A level and a GCSE which means they are on study leave apart from exams.
“They have a kind of cozy teenager at the end of their garden – a really glorified cabana with lights and speakers etc. This means that from 11am every day they play (bad) music dancing until 11 p.m. in the evening.
“I can cope at night, but I work from home, and the only place I can work is in the dining room – which is their side of the house. I really struggle to work and have meetings with incessant music and screaming teenagers.”
She added: “I told a neighbor about it who rolled her eyes and told me to ignore it. I have three months to go!
“I don’t have a desk to work at to escape it. And soon I’ll want the window open too. How can I explain that it’s a problem and that EVERY DAY and constant music isn’t really acceptable ?”
The neighbor’s post received over 100 replies from other Mumsnet users eager to share their thoughts. One said: ‘Find out what you can handle – for example music after 5.30pm and come back and talk to the neighbour. If nothing changes say you’ll have to contact the council.’
Another Mumsnet user commented, “You gotta tell your neighbor it’s over right now. There’s nothing worse than loud music and you gotta work!”
A third said: “I feel for you. When I was that age, if the neighbor had come to my parents and said that I was bothering them all day, every day, I would have been absolutely told to calm down and to stop being antisocial.
“But that was a billion years ago and now it’s MY LIFE, MY RULES and Mumsnet favorite ‘if you don’t like noise, go live in the middle of nowhere on your own’ .
“Creeping individualism reigns here. All you can do is keep asking them to tone it down. You’re not being unreasonable. Good luck.”
Another Mumsnet user replied, “Okay with that. I have teenagers the same age and I wouldn’t let them do that. I raised them to be considerate.
“It doesn’t do them any good in the long run to cause them to become antisocial.” Another said: “This noise level is not reasonable every day whether you are WFH [work from home] or not.”
In a follow-up comment, the neighbor added: “She likes to pass herself off as the ‘fun mum’ to all her kid friends, so they tend to have a half garden full most days.
“And I understand that it’s good for them to have this summer at their age. The neighbor suggested I use one of those offices where you can rent an office for the day, but they’re quite expensive compared to what I actually earn so it’s just not an affordable solution.
“We’re doing things she doesn’t approve of and we’re not ready to stop (current bug is we didn’t mow in May – so we didn’t mow our lawn in May (it will be done tomorrow!) and won’t cut our hedge during bird nesting season. They have fake grass/astroturf), and she treats those things as equals. can’t escape it!”
At the time of writing, 82% of Mumsnet users voted that the neighbor was not unreasonable to complain about teenagers playing loud music.